The essence of respect, courtesy, and gratitude
Horting is a way of respect for parents, a way of respect for elders, a way of respect for people, it is the process of transforming an ordinary person into a warrior. Training in combat horting begins with instilling in students respect for the traditions of the style and club. Discipline, patriotism, the ability to behave in a public place, a combat horting club, on the street, respect for elders, unquestioning fulfillment of tasks, all this is an integral part of the combat horting training process. One of the first manifestations of respect that students become familiar with is the fulfillment of the norms of combat horting etiquette. Beginners usually feel awkward when they have to put their fist on their heart and bow to their senior comrades. They do this reluctantly, obeying the rules that are mandatory for everyone. However, gradually performing bows of politeness and respect becomes habitual and natural, and then the student intuitively begins to feel that without them he lacks something to fully understand the path of self-improvement. Ultimately, having reached the highest levels of skill, the combat horting athlete realizes that there is some deeper meaning hidden in this ritual. This meaning is called respect and gratitude. The lesson, in principle, begins with the ability to behave. Moreover, regular physical activity develops and improves moral and volitional qualities, such as: will and patience, perseverance and determination, hard work, the ability to concentrate and gather at a crucial moment, the ability to cope with excitement, courage, the desire to be first and leadership qualities, respect, politeness and gratitude.
By bowing, an athlete who is serious about combat horting gains imaginary contact with his teammates and coach. Bowing to the audience during competitions, he feels emotions different from those he experiences when learning punches and kicks or obeying the rules. At these moments, he learns one of the most important abilities of a master of combat horting - the ability to establish imaginary contact with others. He begins to feel those invisible threads that connect him with the whole world, and feels how time boundaries are moving apart, the barriers separating the past, present and future are erased. He feels a deep inner understanding of the traditions and history of combat horting as a martial art and his own inextricable connection with them. This cannot be taught, and it is extremely difficult to explain. You need to personally experience and feel it in order to understand. Respect arises from this understanding of our true relationships with others and ourselves.
Respect is a sincere recognition of the greatest value of others and ourselves. This feeling is mutual and dependent on the corresponding emotions. If the trainer does not respect his students, then they will not respect the trainer either, and it would be unreasonable to expect this from them.
To establish an atmosphere of respectful attitude towards each other in a combat horting club, it is necessary to realize the value and significance of each of the students, regardless of their physical data, social status and any other individual factors that can influence the formation of the subjective opinion of the coach. If any of the students resists the teacher's efforts to establish contact or seeks to openly express their disrespect, you need to try to treat him even more respectfully, treating him as an equal. If this does not bring the desired result, you need to be patient. True friendship cannot arise suddenly. And when you, as a teacher, manage to reach the soul of the student, by your own example begin to show him what respectful attitude is. Respect cannot be taught, it must be demonstrated and instilled.
To instill in your students a sense of respect for others, you must first teach them to follow the rules and traditions of combat horting and your club. For example, according to one rule, all students’ fingernails and toenails must be neatly trimmed. This rule helps to cultivate respect for others, as it ensures that none of your students will accidentally injure their partner during training. It would be extremely disrespectful to inflict a serious cut on your teammate while performing a kick simply because you were too lazy to trim your nails. Another rule states that the students’ training uniform, the horting, must always be clean. This rule teaches athletes self-respect by requiring them to pay attention to their appearance and maintain it in a neat and tidy manner.
Although these rules do not automatically inspire a sense of respect, they are the milestones by which students are guided in building relationships with each other. Of course, it would be foolish to expect that just by following these rules a beginner will instantly develop respect for himself and his partners. Instead, the warrior traditions of combat horting are precisely the concepts that first and foremost demand recognition and respect.
Raising students to respect the traditions of combat horting is an ideal starting point for developing a sense of responsibility towards others. All students in the combat horting section are united by the knowledge that they are engaged in a common cause - studying combat horting together. Over time, this awareness of community gives rise to a spirit of unity. During the period of formation of this common feeling, you can promote the development of mutual respect between students by conducting group and individual conversations and practical classes.
Another point that contributes to the development of each student's self-esteem is the growth of his technical skill and the corresponding ascent along the scale of qualification levels - ranks. With each new qualification level, a combat horting athlete feels legitimate pride and greater self-confidence, and his self-esteem also increases to an equal extent.
The formation and development of a sense of respect is a long-term process. Only with a full understanding of this by the teacher and students can they count on success. The coach and his students must work in harmony to achieve a common goal. The efforts of only one party will not bring the desired result. This is a mutual process. Thus, in order to develop a sense of respect in your students, you must respect the traditions of combat horting, respect your students and, first of all, respect yourself. Your students will intuitively feel whether you deserve respect. If your students respect you, you will be able to extend this feeling to the art of combat horting being studied, and to life itself outside the walls of the gym. And when every athlete begins to respect their family, friends, and teachers, we will be able to look to tomorrow with confidence and be calm about the fate of our students.
No matter how rich a person is, if he loses his way, he will lose the spiritual peace that can only be found by following the true human path of self-dedication to his main business. A person who understands the importance of external decency and the rules of courtesy has great wealth in life. The path of martial horting begins with the rules of courtesy. Although it is very important to learn and train to master the technique of martial horting, for a person who truly wants to go through the Path of Martial horting, it is even more important to devote his entire life to such training that contributes to the acquisition of spiritual strength.
To foster respect and courtesy, the following tasks are included in the training process:
– create conditions for ethical and aesthetic education, teaching combat horting etiquette, courtesy, care and protection of the weak, respect for elders, cleanliness and order in the gym, care for the uniform of the combat horting athlete, monitoring the correctness and beauty of movements;
– create conditions for the education of moral and volitional qualities: courtesy, discipline, hard work, honesty, gratitude;
– teach to observe safety rules during training, as well as on the way to the combat horting sports club and back;
– educate a careful attitude to inventory and equipment;
– create conditions for the education of personal hygiene skills;
– form in students a positive attitude towards people who lead a healthy lifestyle and engage in combat horting.
Among the methods of the system of spiritual and physical education by means of combat horting, a special place is occupied by ensuring not only general physical development, but also moral and volitional education. It is considered one of the important means of educating young people, harmoniously combining spiritual wealth, moral purity and physical perfection. In combat horting, more importance is given to the spiritual side than to the technique of performing techniques. Training means the work of the body and spirit, and also due respect for one's opponent. In a deep philosophical sense, in combat horting, it is not enough to fight well at full strength, the main goal of combat horting is to do it in the name of justice. In this sense, combat horting becomes a means of developing a certain moral code, teaches to be noble, polite, ready to always come to the aid of the weak and those who need protection. Kindness and elevation of the soul ultimately determine the athlete's humanity, what masters of combat horting devote their entire lives to and for which they multiply knowledge.
Only a person with high ideals will find true interest in combat horting, will find joy in the strict rules of discipline and laws of communication that combat horting etiquette imposes on the student. Combat horting today is a history and philosophy, without which students will have no idea what they are doing. Combat horting is military traditions and etiquette, without which it is difficult to cultivate a personality and prepare the foundation for deep and meaningful knowledge.
Politeness is developed in combat horting as a positive habit. The philosophical meaning of the traditional greeting in the process of learning combat horting is an etiquette bow, based on respect for elders and ancestors. A warrior who bows to the tradition of his ancestors sincerely honors and reveres that which is above him. The same meaning is given to the greeting with which each duel, each form, each demonstration performance is begun and ended. This is a bow to great knowledge, history, higher powers, the nature of the warrior's path. It develops respect for life in a person. This is the first step on the path to achieving deep self-knowledge: the first duel that must be won is a duel with oneself. Greetings are performed at the beginning and end of the lesson. Correct etiquette with bows and signs of respect is very important. In society, the same manifestation of openness and respect is an important part of everyday life. Teachers and students greet and perform an etiquette bow. The meaning of this greeting is expressed in a deep philosophical principle: before a person turns to worldly matters of training, he must honor that which is higher and more significant. In this case, the predecessors of martial horting act as "eternal teachers" of the martial art.
Bowing one's head before the Teacher, or before something, recognizing something higher and more significant than oneself - such actions educate in a person who is engaged in martial horting, a culture of respectful behavior and a true attitude towards the life and achievements of other people. The first secret of the warrior's path lies in faith in justice, in the true Path, which shows a person the path to success, leads to maturity and wisdom. Any other attitude towards martial horting is unworthy of man and unnatural. Bowing to the teacher of martial horting is a greeting addressed to the master, a person who is the keeper of martial traditions. Not every trainer who teaches combat horting can be called a teacher. It is customary to call only a person who has recklessly devoted his whole life to the search for the path. Greeting him, the student bows not to a specific person at all, but to the principle of the "eternal teacher". This greeting is just one of the expressions of humility before the ideal. Bowing to the teacher is not necessary for the teacher himself, it should become necessary for the student. In himself, the combat horting teacher, like an ordinary living person, is not at all higher than his student. He also bows to his students, and this is a guarantee that humility has grown in his own soul as a master and he sincerely respects his students for choosing him as a guide on the great life path of self-improvement.
A bow at the beginning and end of an individual exercise of combat horting, form, demonstration performance, duel means entering and exiting a state of extreme concentration and concentration of willpower, since the human psyche cannot constantly function in an extreme mode. Rituals in combat horting are a strong educational process that affects the personality of a person and forces the student to approach the chosen type as a system of self-improvement. Greetings between students are also practiced during classes. Young students perform an etiquette bow before their elders, showing respect for the height of knowledge and traditions. Greetings between students symbolize unity, integrity and mean those relationships that maintain harmony. The greeting is addressed to the senior in the qualification level of combat horting, a comrade in the sports club, it expresses the respect with which each person should treat someone similar to himself. This greeting is performed before the start of classes, before learning techniques, combinations and after the end of exercises, before a duel with a sparring partner and after it, in response to help provided by a clubmate, or when meeting athletes or guests who have come to visit the gym. Respect begins from the moment a student crosses the threshold of the gym and bows to his teacher. Bowing at the entrance to the gym is not just an element of tradition, but an external manifestation of respect for authority and is performed regardless of a person's skill and age. Bowing at the entrance to the gym means an internal readiness either to enter a certain mode of work with full dedication, or, when leaving the gym, to sincerely thank the place and people who help to advance on the path of self-improvement. However, the relationship between the student and the teacher is really a direct reflection of the martial tradition of martial horting. In the combat horting, the teacher is looked upon with respect, and the students treat their mentors with absolute devotion. The relationship between the teacher and the student resembles the relationship between a strict father and sons, who are completely subordinate to the authority of the elder. The students of the combat horting club should strive to acquire the following qualities of character: loyalty (loyalty to the people and love for the Motherland, love for parents and affection for brothers and sisters and other relatives, devotion to the path and the teacher); politeness (respect and love, gratitude, sophistication); courage (personal courage, courage, principle, firmness and composure, patience and endurance, resourcefulness); truthfulness (straightforwardness and sincerity, honesty, justice); simplicity (modesty and purity).
Bowing in the combat horting, which means respect, must come from the heart and voluntarily. A combat horting athlete must have genuine respect for people in general and for the individuality of each person. At the same time, his attitude through his actions and physical behavior must be correct and sincere. If his physical attitude and sincerity are genuine, then bowing (respect and gratitude) will naturally come from the heart. It is very important that the physical and spiritual aspects are combined in this way. In the course of his own training, if the student always remembers respect while maintaining a pure and correct attitude and strives to improve his character, then as a result respect and healthy adequate humility will be formed, and in combat horting or life there will be no room for arrogance. Therefore, when entering the combat horting gym, the student also bows to the elder and fellow students. For those who study combat horting, if training begins with respect, then relationships and behavior will also be correct. If the relationship between all students and coaches is correct and everyone trains with respect and humility, then true technique comes easily, and respect and sincerity will contribute to the effectiveness of the training process.
By cultivating respect in your students, you will see how their gratitude to you grows. Gratitude is not just good upbringing, it is a special positive outlook on life. The ability to be grateful brings further success, allows a person to feel a good life position in relation to everything that surrounds him. Gratitude is the greatest virtue, to be grateful means to have all the other virtues. It is not about upbringing and good manners, but about gratitude. As a rule, we are grateful for some service, a good deed, help, support, warm words, gifts and congratulations, and other things that are pleasant and useful to us. The latter, taken for granted, in life, unfortunately, quite often remains without gratitude. They let me through, held the door, didn't be rude, but on the contrary, they smiled politely in the store, politely wrote out a sick leave or medicine in the clinic, delivered an order from an online store on time, did their job perfectly, even if it was a legal action stipulated by the labor code, a duty, but how nice. Only a person with a big soul, well-bred, can sincerely thank. On the one hand, one could wish that our life consisted entirely of white stripes, but failures happen to a person often.
There is an opinion that we attract troubles and problems to ourselves in order to become smarter, wiser, stronger, more careful and more experienced. In any case, negative experience is learning, because, as a rule, we learn from our mistakes. Our own pain is always more painful than someone else's. Yes - terrible, yes - unfair, yes - painful, cruel and insulting. Yes, but: there is a chance that this will not happen again in the future, because having had a negative experience, you can already draw conclusions. If you cannot change the circumstances, change your attitude towards them. Say thank you! After all, this too will pass. We are able to change not only our present, but also our past. It's all about our attitude towards it. There is an option to curse fate, heredity, bad luck, bad people and circumstances. There is another option - to accept with dignity what was, but cannot be changed. To accept is to agree with what inevitably happened. To accept and let go with gratitude what has already happened, and this is the past. Because it is our past events that open the way to our true future, in which, if you try, you can certainly find many reasons for gratitude. Thank our enemies because they make us stronger, thank those who love us because they make us better, and thank those who are indifferent - let them be for the sake of quantity. If you try to become grateful, circumstances will become more favorable.
Gratitude is a higher-grade emotion of the human soul. Children in their childhood cannot feel gratitude to their parents and other adults. The emergence of a feeling of gratitude in a person’s soul to someone or something marks a successful process of the human personality’s growth and maturity. And biological age has nothing to do with it. Not all adults are given this process. Weak and ill-mannered people are also not able to feel gratitude; it is the privilege of a strong and responsible personality. As for the students of combat horting, only those teachers who are grateful people themselves can teach their students to be grateful. From time to time, say out loud to your students what exactly you are grateful for. Find what for and say it. As often as possible, tell your students what people, be they relatives, friends or work colleagues, you are grateful for. Explain to your students all the specific details of why and for what exactly you are grateful to these or other people. This, firstly, will mean that you are a happy person, because it is the lucky ones who feel gratitude more often than others. And secondly, it will clearly increase your teaching chances of raising grateful students. Gratitude gives many advantages. It destroys negative feelings - under its rays anger and jealousy melt, fear and wariness evaporate.
Gratitude destroys obstacles on the way to mastering the knowledge of martial horting. In addition, gratitude causes happiness, which in itself is a powerful healing and benevolent emotion. Gratitude or ingratitude does not depend on the laws of universal gravitation. If one person does not say “thank you” to another, the relationship will not change. Something else will change, no less important, but for the life of this individual person. When a person achieves happiness, he is close to perfection. When we are happy, we like to make others happy, and this contributes to the development of kindness and generosity. Gratitude is a gift for everyone. Even to prolong life, it is necessary to always be happy and grateful in any circumstances. Like other spiritual qualities, gratitude can be developed purposefully. In order to feel gratitude, we do not need to wait for a miracle to happen; we can develop a sense of gratitude by reflecting on the gifts that have already been given to us. This reflection can be given for a minute, a day, or a lifetime. Most people celebrate their birthdays and holidays, but those who purposefully develop gratitude celebrate every day. We can feel grateful for the fact that we are happy, but we can also be happy for being grateful. Remembering the help we have received from other people - especially from our parents and combat horting coach - is a practice common to the upbringing and philosophy of combat horting. Think of two or three people who have been especially helpful to you. Remember what exactly and how they helped you. Maybe they helped you through a tough time, maybe they introduced you to a new friend. The truth is, it doesn’t matter how big or small the help was, how simple or complex. All that matters is that you take a few minutes to remember their kindness and allow yourself to feel grateful. Think about the people you meet. It could be your family members or your friends from your combat horting class who respect and love you, the bus drivers who drive you to and from work, or the cleaner who cleans your room. See if you can’t find a reason to be grateful for each person you meet. Keep doing this throughout your day.
Gratitude is a wonderful cure for selfishness. Try to find reasons to be grateful for everyone you meet. It doesn’t take much time, a few seconds may be enough to remember some quality or gift of theirs that you appreciate. This way, a person becomes a bearer of good feelings and every meeting serves as a reason for gratitude. If you feel hatred for someone, then this hatred boomerangs back to you and dries up your own soul. Ingratitude, forcing a person not to remember the source of goodness or not to reckon with it, makes a person insensitive to the very goodness received. Even having received “everything in the world”, a negative person does not feel joy, satisfaction from these gifts, and as a result remains dissatisfied with life. On the other hand, if you offer love to someone, then this love first fills and heals your mind. If a person understands this, the desire to hate and hurt begins to disappear, while the desire to thank and help grows. This is a profound statement of the educational philosophy of combat horting about how our mind works, because it is by giving that we receive. And we must not forget that gratitude is more necessary for a grateful person than for the one whom he thanks. So gratitude is important not only for its effect on other people, it primarily educates the grateful person himself, makes him spiritually richer, purer and, as a result, stronger. Thus, gratitude turns out to be inextricably linked with such concepts as benevolence and charity.
The moral significance of gratitude is too high. Charity elevates the human soul. Such is the spiritual and moral law of gratitude: gratitude creates, ingratitude destroys. Such is the unbreakable moral law of human life. Therefore, the difficult philosophical question "what to be grateful for" can be answered by saying that one should be grateful not "for what", but "for what": so that the number of positive reasons, deeds and circumstances in life increases, thanks to which a bright feeling of gratitude is born in the human soul.
"Horting Encyclopedia"
Eduard Yeromenko
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