Sex and age
For men, sex is a lifetime of dangers, anxieties, and pitfalls that come with age. At 20, they worry about size and premature ejaculation...at 30, whether they'll ever have sex again...at 40, whether they'll stay in shape, and so on. By nature, they tend to view any problem as a reflection of their own weakness, because men can't turn off their ego, especially in the bedroom. And they don't want to talk about it. But this is your sex life, too. And how are you going to cope with your man's physical changes down below and mental changes up above? The first step is to be informed. In our article, experts and men themselves explain what happens to men at each stage, and how to make them happy, regardless of age.
A Man in His 20s: Sex, Sex, He's Not Enough!
Armed with youthful energy and high testosterone levels, men in their 20s make it their mission to have as much sex as possible. And marriage, with all its opportunities for romance and spontaneity, is the perfect excuse to start looking. While your man's friends can still have sex with different women, your man can gain experience with only one person - you. "This is a time of self-affirmation, and while the quantity of sex is especially important, the quality is very important - a man wants to feel that he is good in bed, that he knows how to please you," - Sherin Hilver, a sexologist. Good sex, in the understanding of men, is frequent, with a variety of positions, ending with orgasm - their absolute need. For a woman trying to improve her sexual relationship with a guy this age, quantity is a good helper to start. Nothing will put you in a better position for a young man than being open about sex at any time of the day or night, in the car, on the kitchen table, even in the elevator. Making sex last as long as possible is another important thing. Premature ejaculation is a common problem for young men, and it causes them a lot of anxiety. The problem, of course, is overexcitement. Remember, at this age, everything from underwear to a porn magazine is very arousing. Part of this overexcitement depends on you. If you want to improve sex with a man, help him restrain himself. Limit preliminary caresses to light touches of the genitals. Do it quickly, because if you linger in one area for too long, you risk - the fiesta can start prematurely. Another way to delay a man's orgasm is a position with the woman on top. There is less direct stimulation here. Try not to do anything too erotic: move slowly and stop when he says he's close to orgasm. What if you find that your desire is far behind his? There could be any number of reasons for this, such as having just had a baby and your body still hasn't returned to normal, or you're just plain tired. Since a 20-year-old man's sexual appetite is more than a gourmet's fast food, you don't need to worry. Believe me, he'll also be happy with oral or manual sex, especially if you make it clear that he doesn't have to do anything in return. Get back to your romance before the plot gets boring, and your man will be on the edge of his seat. This is the time when men think things like, "Even if the sex is bad, it's not that bad" and "I've never had an orgasm that I didn't like."
A man in his 30s: Would he rather sleep than have sex?
For most men, 30 is a new stage in life when they are mostly focused on their career and family. Usually at this age, a man gets married, gets a house and has children. "It's like sitting down and resting before a long journey," says Michael Zolkowski, a psychologist. The maturation, the growing up, characteristic of 20-somethings, disappears: things that sound dull and boring, such as, for example, setting a goal in life, building a serious relationship, thinking about children, begin to appeal to them. But overtime and repairing an apartment on weekends are physically exhausting, and sex often falls out of the schedule. At this turbulent stage of life, men rarely find time for excessive sensuality, and sex begins to perform a pragmatic function. It's great if your sexual rhythms coincide. But what if you want sex more often than he does? Set a date: I’ll be waiting for you in the bedroom at 8 p.m. In some cases, this is a very effective method. But there is one catch: the busier he is, the less romantic your “date” will look. So don’t expect him to be romantic out of the blue. If you rush him, demanding it, he will likely feel guilty for not being able to satisfy your needs. Instead, find a middle ground between a working day and an evening devoted to sex. Massage is one such way (just not in a nude way, massaging the neck is quite enough). Conclusion: relieve his stress, and he will be more responsive and energetic. Despite the fact that sex is not the first place in the life of a 30-year-old man, it can help strengthen the relationship between spouses. What men desperately need at this stage of life is an escape from routine work, from the pressure of home, and a night of passion can help like nothing else. So about once a month, get some nice lingerie from a distant closet and light some candles. “This is the best time for a woman to be fantastic and crazy,” says Hilver. A woman needs to remind her man that she is more than just a mother and a wife, to remind him that she is a Woman.” But don’t stop at candles and a babysitter for the child. Try new positions and devices, even if you haven’t imagined anything like this before. As a result, he will be intrigued, because by saying goodbye to old habits, you will be able to tear this night out of the realm of everyday life, and your man will be able to give free rein to his imagination. In addition, men hide longing for their young, single years, and small changes in sex on your part can remind him of the state of freedom and permissiveness he remembers. The most important thing is to distract him from thoughts about work and immerse him in the game of imagination with the subtle scent of perfume, gentle kisses and hugs.
A man at 40: Quality first!
When a man turns 40, in his mind he turns from a tall, strong young man into a toothless veteran. According to sexologists, from a medical point of view, there is no big difference between a man at 30 and a man at 40. But from a psychological point of view, the difference is very big. For the first time in their lives, they realize that they can die. Suddenly, they begin to attach great importance to their physical condition, paying attention to diet and exercise. Aging is a rather sad sight, but when it comes to sexuality, it turns into a tragedy. Men feel helpless, faced with problems: prostatitis, excess weight. This affects male self-esteem, at least, and tension and dissatisfaction can result in a greater disaster for a 40-year-old man - a midlife crisis. A man understands that he no longer has the physical energy that he used to have. But not everything is so bad. Often after 40, men become great lovers because they are now more focused on quality, not quantity. In order to get all the pleasures of sex with a 40-year-old man, you must find a subtle approach and adapt to his physical changes. As a bonus, you will receive such attention and sensitivity during sex that was not there before. Perhaps your man was attentive before, but now for the first time, he gets real, incomparable pleasure from your orgasm.